We’ve been very lucky this year to have had 2 family sessions taken by 2 equally talented photographers. Tonight we will have number 3! I may be the odd one here, but I LOVE having photos taken of us. This one in particular has been the most stress-free to prep for. Hopefully I’m not shooting myself in the foot when I say, I don’t even have an outfit picked out yet… and I’m totally ok with that! True story. Here’s why:
In my own experience, trying to coordinate outfits has been a pain in the arse. So, we’re not coordinating this time. The boys are wearing outfits that I picked out based on their personalities and, frankly, what I want them to wear. G hates, hates, hates button down shirts… but look! A bow tie and a jacket to go over it, and poof! The buttons disappear and suddenly he can’t wait to wear his bow tie. Know your kids, if the button down is non-negotiable (like in my case) spruce it up with fun shoes or cool accessories.
A little secret, photographers hate matchy matchy outfits. Maybe I took it a little too far, I should explain, we aren’t coordinating on COLORS. No, plum and mustard, or jeans and burnt orange… because what looks good on me doesn’t look good on Rus, and up and down and all around. So, just like the boys, we’ve chosen outfits that look good for each of us. Again, hopefully I’m not regretting this decision tonight when I pull all of our pieces together and it looks straight up awful, but truthfully, even if it did I wouldn’t worry about it. Having photos taken is about capturing a time in our lives. Not the clothing. If you focus on the clothing before the shoot you will focus on the clothing after the shoot when the photos are on the wall. As much as I’d love to have a magazine spread, we’re not models. Capturing us simply as we are now, is much more valuable to me than stressing over clothing. This is our first set of family photos since the hospital photos and I’d rather have a good time in front of the camera than worrying about what we look like and keeping it all clean. Secretly, I was kinda hoping for rain. :)
On that note, I’m not too worried about getting an “everyone looking and smiling photo”, I’ve kinda always felt this way. Capturing beautiful moments and interactions are more important to me than everyone facing front in a weird pose and smiling. Frankly, G would scowl even more if he was forced to sit still and smile, he already hates having his picture taken with my camera phone. So, nope. That’s not a battle I’m taking on. Plus, I already know what we look like and I’d rather frame photos that make me FEEL happy or make me giggle. In the Spring, Haley gave one to us of G straight up scowling… I’m having that picture framed. I LOVE it, it makes me laugh every time I see it. It makes me feel happy. On the flip side, photographers stress over the everyone facing front and getting everyone to smile. Swapping heads takes so much time. Wanna make your photographer love you and beg to photograph your family again? Tell them to just capture candids and moments. :)
Rustin shopped on his own. What what?? Yep. He is grown and can handle it. On my end, one less thing to worry about.
I’m getting ready super early, no rushing before we leave (fingers crossed). No angry screaming kids (fingers crossed). No arguing (fingers crossed). Just lots of deep breathing and focusing on what matters most.
I think I covered it. If you’re having family photos taken this Fall focus on what’s most important to you and let the rest fall away. I can almost guarantee that when you look at the final product on your wall you won’t be wishing you’d had gone with the rider boots over the booties. It ain’t that serious. :)
Shine on, beautiful people. Xoxo
Photography by Haley Nord